1. When people would remain silent, forget the concept of team and unity and say “Yes Boss”, just so they can save themselves.
2. When you need power to get anything done and when a honest, humble polite request alone wont do. Recently I needed something done. I went and made a request. I was told a rude no. So I told the same story to someone, more powerful than me, more like a report than a complaint…. I just wanted to notify the person above me that I had done what was asked of me, but the reply was a no. So the person more powerful than me says one word and it is done. So where goes my humble request?
3. When there is no basic value system in people. People don’t have to be saints…but they can have minimal value system..neither am I a saint, I don’t go out of my way and do good, but I wont stand still and see harm being done…
4. When all the above make me feel like giving up my own value system…and when I start contemplating and feel like a fool….. But no, I wont give up my values…my dad once told me of an officer, he had. That officer refused to fire a man who had partial vision only in one of his eyes…he said he wouldn’t discriminate and the man with vision problems was anyway doing his work well. So this officer resigned. He gave up his job and stood by his principles….That incident impressed me..my dad did the same, he refused to write negative comments about a peon , who was actually doing a good job…..my dad simply took VRS. Sometimes life may not give us that option..but I hate it when we have to compromise our values……
During the HR interview for my current job, I was asked, "What makes you sad?"
I said, i become real sad, when my trust is betrayed. Why? Because, then my value system is shaken..i live by my value system...i go on because i beleive that good persists..sometimes that faith is shaken..
And i was asked,"what makes you really happy?"
I said, "when whatever I beleive in, comes true!"
And i beleive in my own value system....